The Levels of Cuckolding

If this is the first post you have found here, I encourage you to go back and find earlier posts that explain many of things discussed here in detail. It's important to have good understanding of meanings and terms and what cuckolding is and isn't.

For those considering cuckold, there are 4 basic levels on the journey from fantasy to reality. Not everyone will go through all the stages, in fact most won't. If you do progress to the 4th stage, you will have immersed yourself in the lifestyle and few leave it without some profound reason that prevents them continuing. What I mean to say is, you won't want to go back to vanilla sex ever again. 

Level 1: Mind Cuck

This is where the fantasy of cuck is in the mind, but often your spouse knows nothing of it. One is afraid to mention the thought fearing the reaction of the spouse. You may secretly explore cuck porn or chatrooms. All of which tend to offer a highly distorted view of cuck. Often this can be damaging to a relationship in the long term. You are holding a sexual desire secret from your spouse. A mere casual fantasy is find now and then but it's not positive to allow the fantasy of cuck to overtake your sexual desires without including your spouse. 

Level 2: Awareness.

I tell people if you can't talk about cuck with your spouse, then you are not in the type of relationship that would benefit from it. Real cuck takes trust and honest open communication. Once you begin to discuss cuck, even as pillow talk, you have made it to step 2. Be sure to really listen to each other and consider the desires and fears of your spouse. If one is repulsed by the idea, be respectful of that. You have to be willing to accept that cuck may not be something your spouse desires. If there is an openness to the idea, look for information and learn together. Reading this blog together can be a great start. Any new couple should have a million questions.

This level should not be rushed. Keep in mind, you can control every aspect of fantasy. The fantasy you have may be very different from what your spouse envisions. Until you get to the point where you both have clear and matching vision of they type of bull you want and how things should go, it's not wise to cross into reality. I have coached couples for over a year in this level and many never go beyond it.

Level 3: Exploration.

This is huge step where fantasy starts to take shape into something real. You have found a bull that seems like a match. You both feel you are ready for the true experience. You have discussed everything with your bull and each other and you are ready to go from anticipation to exploration.  Don't expect everything to be perfect the first time. Even the most experienced bulls will take time to get truly comfortable with a couple. Also don't try to make every desire happen in your firt session. Much of cuck is in the mind so anticipation and looking forward to the next adventure is a big part of it. Once you both get past the awkwardness of the first session with your bull and actually bringing another person into your sex life, assuming all goes well and it was a positive experience, you both will likely want to do more of it.

It very important to talk about feeling and stay connect during this time. Feelings can be intense and jealousy and arousal are fine as long as it does not turn into anger or regret. Make sure emotions are healthy ones and a source of sexual excitement for both.

It's normal to have a small part that's unsure even after the first few sessions. It's good to discuss things and check on each other during your journey. It's okay to pause and evaluate and even make changes as needed. 

Level 4: Lifestyle Embrace

If you have discussed everything, have been lucky enough to find a good experienced bull who considers you both and have has some incredibly erotic moments together, then congratulations, you are cuckold couple. Your communication and trust will be strong, your sex life more exciting than most and the two of you will have undergone a deep and profound change together.

Most people have the fantasy, even if they don't admit it. Few get to this level. At this point you two will share a deep connection most couples never will. You will see each other is desirable ways and in almost every single case where cuck is done right, your relationship will be stronger and your sex life will be better than most. 

Make no mistake, your sex life will change. You will discover new ways of pleasing one another beyond traditional sex. It may come from watching or assisting in reaching climax. It may be from reconnecting and completing a sex act. What is certain is you will discover a whole new world of psychological and sexual pleasure that can not be achieved one on one without a good bull.