I do a good portion of meet couples in hotels. I tend to prefer it over home meets.  Here are a few of the positives of fucking in a rented room: You get privacy, which may not be available at home. If a couple has kids or a neighbor that likes to drop by it can kill the vibe.  You can use the pool or hot tub or spring for a room that has a hot tub in it, which means you can try sex in the water or simply relax next to your lover. If you have a small shower, you might be able to book a room with a shower large enough for you to have shower sex in. Someone else does the cleanup and makes the bed, so you can truly relax and really use the room well. For some people, it just feels naughtier to have sex somewhere else, even if there’s no particular reason. This is the same reason we recommend trying sex outside of the bedroom if you’ve never done that before! Sometimes sex in a cheap motel room makes things a bit naughtier.  You can meet a long-distance partner half...

  What's the most  the most common fetish in the nation? Feet. To each their own, but for me feet just carry the rest of the fun parts.  While data such of this is always suspect as many keep their fetish desires private, it gives us a peak at what others are interested in. Some states are vanilla like tickling while others go hardcore with fisting and bondage. For those into cuckold, you might want to visit Texas or Nevada. Just 5 years ago Alabama held the number 1 spot for cuck couples. TX was at 27 and NV at 11. You know that one chair that's in the corner of every hotel room? Now you know what that's really for.

One of the big hang ups many guys have when it comes to cuck is the interaction with another male. Getting close contact or enjoying seeing a man sexually can make one question their own manliness.  Yet  research exploring women’s experiences of threesomes involving two males and one female has revealed that women find it more desirable if the men opt to interact sexually with one another. Yes, it's often a huge turn on for a woman to see her man in new sexual situation. I will tell you that have zero attraction to men. At the same time I have no hang up when it comes bi sex with a couple. I know it's a turn on and it's my goal that both in a couple enjoy the experience. How far that goes depends on the comfort level of the couple.  Why do women like watching straight men men in homoerotic sex? Most often they cite  increasing their own sexual arousal and providing a safer, less objectifying environment as reasons that they would want to see two men interact sex...

Recently a reader suggested I dive a bit deeper into the mindset of the cuckold. Now I fully admit as a bull, my perspective dies not come from a cuckold and not be exact for everyone, but I can share what I have learned over the years. Most cuckold submissives find themselves internally conflicted with a desire to please their wife in nonconventional ways. Some are unable to meet their needs for a number of reasons and some find pleasure in exploring taboo sexual desires and fantasies.  Cuckoldry is considered a  fetish  because it betrays a fundamental and age-old norms of a man will not want other men around his woman.  We are socialized to accept the millenniums-old belief that monogamy is a virtue, and that infidelity is equated with immorality and instability, H umans are not naturally monogamous. Otherwise infidelity would not occur. Nevertheless, we are taught to remain faithful to our partners and never stray and that can lead to a boring, pre...

I started this blog as a way to share my views with others who had an interest in real cuckoldry and seemed to have so many questions. My experience with couples has mostly been positive, but that is result of effort and not just luck. I laugh at the way cuck is portrayed in porn and other media. Most times it is not close to reality.  There is a lot of misunderstanding on the topic and few places where people can find quality information and ask their own questions. Over 10,000 people have found this page. They have shared the fantasy and some have begun their own exploration journey of sexual desires, taboos and deep emotions.    If you find anything here helpful, I'm glad. Even if you only discover that not everyone into cuck is some perverted deviant. Most are normal friendly people who are just seeking some excitement that is widely misunderstood.  As I approach writing my 100 article here, I'm not sure how much more I can share without just repeating what has a...

 Q: Can you explain more about the psychology of cuckolding? A: I'm no doctor and it's a deep subject not easily explained, but let me make an attempt.  Some people think guys who are cuckolds have some kind of sex disorder or “losers" of some sort. I can confirm they are wrong along don't understand other misconceptions about cuckoldry. Being a cuckold requires you to be confident about yourself most of all. Otherwise you can't see your partner with someone else. You also need to be in a loving relationship and both partners need to be able to completely trust each other. Both partners also need to be clear why they are doing it and also set certain boundaries. If you are careful about it, it can be one of the great joy's of being happily married . As for the psychology behind it. Sometimes its very simple. Just the happiness of seeing your partner having fun is a great altruistic happiness that is difficult for many people to understand. Cuckolding isn't ...

More than half of all men and a quarter of all women have the same fantasy, but nobody talks about it. The cuckolding fantasy, or wife sharing fantasy, can be a powerful way to strengthen the enjoyment of your sex life with your partner -- even if you never bring anyone else into the bedroom

Before we get into our latest topic I want to say thank you to all who have found and supported this blog. Over 8000 have shared thoughts, asked questions and sought advice and information here. I hope you find the info here helpful and I welcome you to reach out directly if I can be of assistance. So you've thought about cuck but should you make the leap into reality? Maybe. There are pros and cons. The growing popularity of cuckolding has likely introduced the idea to more couples, including those to whom it may never have otherwise occurred. Of course, there’s a huge difference between fantasizing about having sex with someone else, and the reality of it.  The fantasy of being a cuckold can be exciting, intoxicating and may revive a dull, vanilla sex life, whilst the realism of this dream can cause anxieties, fears of failure, inadequacy, friction and jealousy. Intriguingly, the few studies into this phenomenon that have been conducted suggest that the cuckolding fantasy is more...

Why would anyone ever gain pleasure from seeing their woman fuck other men?  The answer can vary. Often people struggle to understand the deep mental side of cock that goes way beyond intense sex. Cuckoldry takes our deep shames and insecurities and then eroticizes them. Watching a partner with someone else, being present and orchestrating it is a mix of powerful emotions. Top performing individuals often enjoy power exchange. They go to work all day every day... and are "the man," "the alpha," "the leader." Cuck can be an escape from that.  Some  Cucks want their own inner ideal man to make love to their women. The man that they don't consider themselves to be, but the bull does embody. There can a homoerotic element to this sort of fantasy as well,  Sometimes people just find things hot and that's ok.  The idea that humans are automatically supposed to fit in some "correct" sexual preferences is wrong. If he's not a jealous type, th...

  I often struggle with the answer when I'm asked if I'm bi. I have no attraction to men at all. I don't kiss men, but over time I've become comfortable with not only close contact in sexual situations, but also bi sex.  For some couples bi sex is a huge turn on and as a bull, I'm all about turning a couple on, braking out of past limitations and making fantasy happen. I recall an audible gasp from a woman first seeing her man take my cock into his mouth. She later shared she almost climaxed just watching it. Another time a woman shared her fantasy was to witness man to man sex. She said it was the most erotic experience of her life.  So while I have no general interest in men, I've learned what  we are attracted to romantically may not always sync up with what our minds tell us turns us on. When a man is hesitant when it comes to cuck, I'll tell him to focus on how his body reacts and not how his mind has been programmed. Same concept really. It doesn't...

  Cuckolding, watching your partner have sex with someone else, is a popular kink in the US, but not Europe. A sexual-fantasy researcher said the 400 people they interviewed in Belgium and the Netherlands didn't bring up cuckolding at all. That's likely because gender roles are more egalitarian and non-monogamy is more accepted in Europe, making cuckolding less taboo. Americans are often considered sexual prudes compared to their typically more uninhibited European counterparts. But there's one kink that Americans seem to enjoy much more than those overseas: cuckolding where one partner watches while their partner has sex with another person. On a recent podcast hosted by the Kinsey Institute sex researcher Justin Lehmiller, Mariëlle de Goede shared findings from her sexual-fantasy research in the Netherlands and Belgium. It involved conducting 400 interviews about people's sexual fantasies. When de Goede cross-referenced her European findings with previous rese...

  Q: I'm  trying to understand just what it's about but I've always assumed it was pretty uncommon (though to be honest I don't really "get" it, there are plenty of "weird" things that I can understand are turn-ons for people but the cuckold kink just has me baffled, not just the idea of being the cuckold but also being the "bull" as they call it).  Is the cuckold thing really all that common?  A: How common cuck is hard to say as many people aren't willing to admit their personal sexual activity. I can say the interest in the subject seems to have grown recently. I'm not surprised you don't understand it, as most people outside the lifestyle are confused as well. Maybe some stats will help explain things: Cuck does seem to be becoming more popular. Now it's easier than ever for people to explore and connect with others who have similar interests. There are around 6.25 million US couples that are active cuckolds There are mo...

The type of people interested in cuckold relationships come from diverse backgrounds with various motivations .  Some are driven by specific sexual interests like voyeurism or exhibitionism, while others explore power dynamics and the complexities of dominance and submission. Finding pleasure in a partner’s pleasure and fulfillment, also attracts individuals to engage in cuckold dynamics. Interests in cuckold relationships vary widely among individuals, with no one-size-fits-all answer to who might be interested.  Ultimately, it depends on personal preferences, desires, levels of trust, and open communication within a specific relationship context. 9 ways to practice a cuckold relationship The practice of cuckolding might include a number of different processes and things to think about. If you are interested in experimenting with cuckolding remember  communication and mutual understanding are key. 1. Open communication of shared dreams Start dialogue with your spouse abo...

I love when spring comes, the weather warms up and people are in the mood to fuck . For a man whose idea of heaven is the gentlest of touches on his aching erection as he leaks precum watching his wife climax with another man, it means cuck is back in season. When I’ve discussed cuckolding with people not in the lifestyle, some think it represents weakness. That those who get turned on by the idea of their partner fucking someone else are somehow constantly miserable. Feeling undeserving of love and so only able to enjoy it if they know it comes with the promise of betrayal. That's totally wrong. Guys cite a range of reasons why it’s hot: they get off on their partner’s pleasure. They get off on the pure visual of it: watching two people fuck and knowing one of them is your partner. It's a personalized explicit live show performed just for them. And some of them – yes – they like the conflict. In a world that teaches us that sex is precious – a gift you give to those you love a...

When it comes to cuckold, Americans seem to be much more interested than others.  The reasons behind this may be surprising. Sharing your partner in Europe isn't really considered all that taboo, but w hatever is considered taboo in a person's particular culture is more likely to turn them on. When it comes to cuckolding, it flies in the face of the male-centered and monogamous American cultural norms. So, a man sexually sharing his wife with another man through cuckolding often comes with a negative connotation in the US. For some, that forbidden feeling can be a major turn-on, and actually increase popularity. Even the term "cuck" has  historically been used  to mock men whose wives are unfaithful. And yet the term is slowly being reimagined as a descriptor of just another form of sexual expression. Meanwhile, “cuckold” has become a top search term for many porn sites. It seems as though, whether in fantasy or reality, many men like the idea of another man with thei...

I'm very selective with who I choose to get involved with. Looks has little to do with that. It has to be a good overall match for everyone. There is a common misconception that a Bull will jump into bed with any mans wife. For me, that's not true. Over the years I have walked away from many more couples than I ever got involved with. The reasons vary. Sometimes just not a good vibe, or I did not think the couple was ready. A few times people were just too damn crazy to be connected with. I've gotten some requests that I've turned down. Some of them have been odd to me. I'm not one to judge, but if it's not my thing I have to pass. So what are some the requests I turned down? The top one is pregnancy risk. I feel for couples having a hard time trying to conceive, but I won't be a part of bringing a child into the world through cuck. Children have no place in private sex lives and it's always a no from me. Relations -  There are some fantasies around this...

I talk with a number of couples. Most I never meet. I simply answer questions, give advice and hope they find what works for them. Recently I was contacted by a couple looking for their first experience. We chatted for some time. First with the husband. I ask a series of questions to try and find our where the couple is mentally in the process and if they are even ready to go from fantasy to reality.  In time I spoke with the wife and then together as a couple. They were local to me, seemed to be in the right mindset and we had hot if off so to speak. I was actually attempting to slow them down, but after some time they both insisted they were ready to meet me. Initially we were going to meet simply to talk face to face. Share a deep conversation about taking the next step and determine if and when they wanted that to happen.  This couple decided they were ready and did not want to wait any longer. Our first meeting would be in my hotel room and they understood it would m...

  I get lots of email questions about cuck when people come across my blog and find someone they can safely ask questions. So here are a few answers and feel free to send me your questions. Do people get jealous?   Short answer is yes. But that's not always bad. Anger and hurt are bad, but measured jealousy can be arousing and make you want your spouse even more. Are cuck fantasies involving a black man taking my white wife racist? I do tend to find the interracial    portrayal  of cuck (especially in porn) racist. At the same time, there are plenty of black men who are happy to take on the role of a black bull. What needs to be understood is fantasy and reality are different. As long as everyone is a consenting adult, there should be no need to worry. I know that my husband is highly monogamous, so I have never mentioned it directly, but I would love the chance to screw other guys. How do I explain that I only want one love in my life (him), but I would al...

The odd word "cuckold" has evolved over the ages. It used to mean a guy who was unaware his spouse was cheating on him That has changed.  Cuckolding can be enjoyed by couples of any sexual orientation, genders, and roles, and there's a wide spectrum of ways that the couple views the affairs with the third party.  I hear from couples who want to safely explore cuckold without being judged or in some uncomfortable situation. While merely explore the fantasy of cuckold can be a huge turn on for many, the  erotic scenario doesn't need to remain a fantasy.  Most of the couples I deal with involve  a guy who knows, enjoys, encourages and at times participates in his spouse taking another sexual partner.  Believe it or not, cuckolding fantasies are actually much more common than you'd think. That's not to say you won't get horrified reactions from people. Yet  before anyone brands this lifestyle a negative, I encourage you to take a step back and conside...

Being a long time bull I have learned much over the years. Each couple is different, but some things are pretty universal.  Women, while they knew their husband thought they were beautiful, being desired by other men was even more validating to them. These couples negotiate boundaries, both mutual and individual. They share their deepest secrets and sexual desires. While there bond is strong, m any come to realize monogamy is not a reasonable goal for them. They knew themselves well enough to say, "This monogamy thing doesn't work for me" — and as a result, were able to negotiate marriages from a place of self-acceptance and self-knowledge. While this type of relationship won't work for everyone, for many it does. I personally feel, that it is important to be able to talk to your partner about what you both expect in terms of sex, your turn-ons, your fantasies, and what your level of comfort is, with what the other person may desire.  Exploration in an otherwise heal...