All couples, but especially those new to cuck, worry about problems that can occur. Let's talk about some  problems you may face along the way and give you a simple solutions exploring cuckoldry. Problem: Too Much, Too Soon One of the most common problems for couples is doing too much too soon. Sometimes, this is a case of too quickly blurring the line between fantasy and reality. In other cases, rushing the level of control before one can adjust to  the change. Cuck is about seduction, building trust, and honest communication on both sides of the relationship. While some blurring of the lines between fantasy and reality is normal, too much can cause even the best of intentions to backfire. Though exciting, cuck can be overwhelming if rushed. Usually, a couple has built the fantasy years before developing a relationship. However, the fantasies and desires of each partner may  be very different. Commonalties must be discovered and explored while respecting the limits of yo...

A husband   has taken legal action after discovering his   wife   had an   affair   with a  government official  soon after the couple had joined a   swingers’ club . The couple, married for 10 years, had entered the   swinging   scene to spice up their relationship, with strict rules to avoid emotional entanglements. The husband reported that he found incriminating chat messages between his wife and the official. These messages revealed an ongoing affair, with the pair exchanging intimate messages and gifts, including a BMW car. The couple had a mutual agreement to participate in swinging activities, with the wife choosing the partners and the husband always present during these encounters. The primary rule was that no further relationships should develop beyond these activities to preserve their family integrity. The husband recounted that about three months ago, they had participated in a swinging session with a government offici...

I'm very selective with who I choose to get involved with. Looks has little to do with that. It has to be a good overall match for everyone. There is a common misconception that a Bull will jump into bed with any mans wife. For me, that's not true. Over the years I have walked away from many more couples than I ever got involved with. The reasons vary. Sometimes just not a good vibe, or I did not think the couple was ready. A few times people were just too damn crazy to be connected with. I've gotten some requests that I've turned down. Some of them have been odd to me. I'm not one to judge, but if it's not my thing I have to pass. So what are some the requests I turned down? The top one is pregnancy risk. I feel for couples having a hard time trying to conceive, but I won't be a part of bringing a child into the world through cuck. Children have no place in private sex lives and it's always a no from me. Relations -  There are some fantasies around this...

The interest level in cuck and conversations I'm having about it have exploded. It can be a real challenge and at times a dangerous task  to turn fantasy into reality when it comes to new couples and at times even experienced couples. The top concern for anyone has to be safety. Not only your personal safety, but your mental and physical health as well as those involved with you. I've given tips before, but I really want to focus on the topic of safety here. It's important to be open and honest, but at the same time protect your identity and privacy. Once you build an established trust with someone you can loosen what you share, but only when comfortable. I always suggest creating an email exclusive for communications and meeting at a hotel for first meetings. Be careful giving out phone numbers, address, work information, etc. I hate hearing awful stories of bad experiences especially when most of them can be avoided. If you have a bad feeling or some sort of concern DON...

Couples just getting into cuckold are bound to find a confusing mix of emotions. A battle between erotic arousal and how we are programmed to react to infidelity is common. Women often feel their partners should get jealous, and want to keep them away from other men and to themselves. T his gets translated into feeling unloved or unwanted of not properly guided. It's important  to put rules and boundaries in place that make each person feel heard, safe and supported within the framework of the relationship. Cuckold does not have to be real for all couples. It can be pursuing the cuckold fantasy in real life or just occasional role-play. There must be compromise when one is not willing to go as far as the other. The needs of both must be met while respecting the limits of both.  Communication and mutual enjoyment are the bedrocks to any relationship.  One of the most common problems novice cuckolding couples make is doing too much too soon.  Cuckoldry is about seducti...

Some might find the idea of watching their partner in bed with someone else as nightmarish, so unthinkable that the mere thought triggers intense jealousy. For others, it could be a total turn-on.  Either way, you should know that cuckolding is actually a surprisingly common fetish, and there are many misconceptions about what it entails. Basically, cuckolding involves someone getting aroused by observing their partner having sex with someone else. Not to be confused with a threesome, in a cuckold situation, the cuck doesn’t always get directly in on the fun. Rather they draw enjoyment from the taboo act of surrendering their partner to another. Cuckolding isn’t technically considered cheating as it doesn’t occur behind the partner’s back. in fact, not only has the cuck given permission to their partner to have sex with another person, they’re also typically encouraging it. A recent survey showed that more than half of men and about a third of women had considered cuckolding. Keep ...

 Q: I've been reading your blog and as a married woman both fascinated and terrified by what I have read, I'm curious about the impact of romantic feelings developing for a bull and the impact of having an additional sex partner. Will you address this? A: Thanks for the question. S ome people are better than others at compartmentalizing their romantic longings from their sexual desires. For others, emotions and touch naturally entwine, making causal sex harder. Research shows that women tend to have a harder time than men with preventing emotional attachment, and when this happens they are more prone to feeling used, depressed, regretful, or embarrassed after the fact . It's important to determine what type of person you are before entering into an additional sexual relationship.   It can be easy to tell yourself that it's just sex, just for fun, but for some people, it may turn out to be very hard to keep your feelings in check. So, it's vital to assess expectation...

Q: I've been reading your posts and I go between fascination and disgust. I know people have all sorts of strange things they are into, but I don't understand why any self respecting person would want to share their spouse. I would not want my husband with another woman, nor would I ever want him see me even so much as flirt with a man. Can you explain why anyone would enjoy this? A: Thanks for the question. Many people don't understand the attraction of cuckolding and that's fine. We just have to be careful not to judge those who do enjoy it.  But let me answer your question on why some enjoy cuck. The answer can be found in a number of my posts, but f or many people, cuck provides a space to explore their sexual desires in a new way and often in ways one could not experience in a typical M/F relationship. This opportunity to experience sexual pleasure together in a new way appeals to many couples.  It provides a way to satisfy your spouse without having the entire res...

I have had countless conversations with couples over the years regarding cuck and by far the biggest challenge once a couple decides to try cuck is finding a good bull. I could share lots of stories of  disappointments. While it's impossible to avoid all issues, if you take your time with the process those disappointments will happen during screening and not in the bedroom. So what are the things that disappoint most couples? The one I hear most is not being able to preform . A number of men who say they are bulls can't perform while being watched. So a husband wanting to view the sex act between the bull and his wife becomes an issue. If a guy is not comfortable taking a married woman in front of her husband, he has no business calling himself a bull. Next is the all big talkers. They tell you what you want to hear and then don't show up. If they waste your time and only provide excuses move on.  Some guys are too rough . While a bull should take control and many find eve...

Sex with your spouse is, and should, be very different than sex with your bull. There is a an emotional connection that exists with couples. You have built a life together and all of that (the good and bad) gets in bed with you. Many people base sex on the emotional,  you need to love the person.  The message teaches a good lesson about caring, respect, and treating others as equals. It provides the right direction for relationships. However, that approach changes with the addition of a bull. A bull is an addition to your larger relationship with your spouse and not a substitute for it. Let's talk about the differences between sex with a spouse and a bull. One key rule I have is emotional feelings are not allow between me and a mans wife. Having feelings for someone is vital when establishing a long-term relationship for having a family and companionship.  This should be avoided with your bull and reserved only for your spouse. That does not mean you can't like your bull ...

While the majority of people find the information here helpful and of value, that's not true for all. I recieved a message from someone who had a bit of  criticism. They held a very traditional view of marriage and was appalled anyone might suggest altering such and the damage it can do . Of course that is a valid position.  I do want to be clear that I am very much pro-marriage. Men and women should form a lasting bond and raise children in a loving home and I would in no way ever seek to disrupt that. However we have to face the reality that, in the modern world, not all couples fit in that mold. Their efforts to address needs desires and issues within their relationship should not be judged by those who may not approve of their private choices.   A married couple faces many challenges not least of which is that one partner is a man and the other woman. Two different viewpoints on sex and relationships. Two different desires and limits. They must share a common pur...

  Q: My husband has always been into seeing me with other people, and though I’ve never really understood, I entertain it because I love him and want him fulfilled. However, can you help me understand why so I feel a little more comfortable? A: I'm happy to give you my view, but it's important you have the conversation with the only one who can truly answer your question and that is your husband. The reason behind why certain guys enjoy sharing their wife is not always the same. Some like seeing the wife being pleasured and satisfied. It may be that they have issues sexual satisfying her on their own or some just enjoy viewing their wife proactively  from a different view. Others enjoy the emotions stirred by such encounters. It may be the emotional conflict between arousal  and humiliation. Or many enjoy the taboo nature of a non traditional sexual relationship with the wife and bull. There is a deep psychological aspect to cuck. I've often said cuck in 90% mental and 10...

I just got a message from a couple I have been talking to about cuck. They are not in my area, have had no experience and were seeking some advice. One of the things I tell couples is don't try to rush things. Often times a couple will get eager, impatient and ignore their own rules for things to happen. This couple had been chatting with someone they were interested in as a possible bull. They rushed things and went ahead ignoring much of what I had told them. I was still hoping it would work out wonderful for them, but the message they sent was: "He was an ass. Not sure if we ever try it again". That's sad because it can be wonderful for a couple when done right. It takes time and some serious conversation to determine if you want to invite someone into a marriage, relationship and bed.  I have no clue if they both will be willing to get beyond the initial negative experience and try again by investing the time needed to find and choose a bull. Remember it's eas...

Q: I'm a happily married woman. We have a good sex life and my husband began talking about cuck with me. After some time we had our first try at it. He loved it, I'm not so sure. I kind of regret crossing the line of fantasy. Does anyone ever regret doing it? A: It's natural to have a flood of confusing emotions and very important to talk about them with your husband and bull. While I don't know your situation, often regrets come from rushing things and not being clear about limits and boundaries. You need to have an honest discussion and figure out what you liked and did not like about your experience. Are there things you can improve or change, or it's quite possible cuck just is not for you. There are so many factors that only you can evaluate. Maybe you need a different bull or time to get comfortable with him. It could be the place you choose for your encounters. It's normal to question things and allow time to develop the relationship, but no one should ha...

One of the biggest challenges when it comes to cuck is finding people who are honest, real and do more than just talk a good game. Many couples turn to chatrooms and websites to safely and discreetly meet people and begin their exploration. While there are some real people to be found, many are just playing out their own sexual fantasies online.  You really have no idea who you are talking to and if what they are telling you is even close to the truth. I have no issue with people who play out fantasy online. I do have an issue with those who misrepresent themselves and seek to mislead others. The best approach is to assume what you find online is false until proven true. I don't expect anyone to just believe every word I say. I answer questions, address concerns, build trust over time and never rush into anything.  If you go online, I suggest you do it as a couple. At the very least discuss what you discover together. It goes without saying, don't give anyone your address, pho...

I hate the term breeding. It sounds so industrial. I was asked (and have been asked in the past) about the subject. This is my view on the topic. Take it or leave it. There are times when a couple may desire to have the bull impregnate the wife for a number of reasons. My response to that request is and will always be NO. I've heard it all before. It's a trusted three way relationship. They want a family anyway. The woman can't conceive with the husband. Whatever you come up with my answer is going to be no.  If you want to seek a sperm donor fine but, I don't suggest it be your bull. There are several reasons why I am strongly against this. First, I don't believe in involving children in your sexual fantasies on any level. That particular fantasy is a red flag for me. It often indicates to me a couple does not have clear sense of the dividing line between reality and fantasy. Bringing a child into the world through a sexual triad can create all kinds of legal, mora...

 Q: I found your blog. We are new to cuckold and I hate condoms. What do you suggest? First, health and safety are always important. I never take pregnancy or health risks. That said I have been with couples who enjoy bare sex and ejaculation inside the wife. I consider it honor and real sign of trust to cum in mans wife and only do it when asked and allowed.  Unless you fully trust your bull and are sure everyone is clean and does not sleep with others insist on testing first. If you are sure it's safe and have limited risks, then going bare can provide a deeper connection. Many couples get intense pleasure from the bull depositing his semen in the wife and they often reconnect by using the bull's cum as lube or to pleasure the wife orally after sex with the bull. Just don't take risks in the heat of passion. Have a question? Submit it and I will try to answer.