What's the most  the most common fetish in the nation? Feet. To each their own, but for me feet just carry the rest of the fun parts.  While data such of this is always suspect as many keep their fetish desires private, it gives us a peak at what others are interested in. Some states are vanilla like tickling while others go hardcore with fisting and bondage. For those into cuckold, you might want to visit Texas or Nevada. Just 5 years ago Alabama held the number 1 spot for cuck couples. TX was at 27 and NV at 11. You know that one chair that's in the corner of every hotel room? Now you know what that's really for.

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All couples, but especially those new to cuck, worry about problems that can occur. Let's talk about some  problems you may face along the way and give you a simple solutions exploring cuckoldry. Problem: Too Much, Too Soon One of the most common problems for couples is doing too much too soon. Sometimes, this is a case of too quickly blurring the line between fantasy and reality. In other cases, rushing the level of control before one can adjust to  the change. Cuck is about seduction, building trust, and honest communication on both sides of the relationship. While some blurring of the lines between fantasy and reality is normal, too much can cause even the best of intentions to backfire. Though exciting, cuck can be overwhelming if rushed. Usually, a couple has built the fantasy years before developing a relationship. However, the fantasies and desires of each partner may  be very different. Commonalties must be discovered and explored while respecting the limits of yo...

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Recently a reader suggested I dive a bit deeper into the mindset of the cuckold. Now I fully admit as a bull, my perspective dies not come from a cuckold and not be exact for everyone, but I can share what I have learned over the years. Most cuckold submissives find themselves internally conflicted with a desire to please their wife in nonconventional ways. Some are unable to meet their needs for a number of reasons and some find pleasure in exploring taboo sexual desires and fantasies.  Cuckoldry is considered a  fetish  because it betrays a fundamental and age-old norms of a man will not want other men around his woman.  We are socialized to accept the millenniums-old belief that monogamy is a virtue, and that infidelity is equated with immorality and instability, H umans are not naturally monogamous. Otherwise infidelity would not occur. Nevertheless, we are taught to remain faithful to our partners and never stray and that can lead to a boring, pre...

I started this blog as a way to share my views with others who had an interest in real cuckoldry and seemed to have so many questions. My experience with couples has mostly been positive, but that is result of effort and not just luck. I laugh at the way cuck is portrayed in porn and other media. Most times it is not close to reality.  There is a lot of misunderstanding on the topic and few places where people can find quality information and ask their own questions. Over 10,000 people have found this page. They have shared the fantasy and some have begun their own exploration journey of sexual desires, taboos and deep emotions.    If you find anything here helpful, I'm glad. Even if you only discover that not everyone into cuck is some perverted deviant. Most are normal friendly people who are just seeking some excitement that is widely misunderstood.  As I approach writing my 100 article here, I'm not sure how much more I can share without just repeating what has a...

 Q: Can you explain more about the psychology of cuckolding? A: I'm no doctor and it's a deep subject not easily explained, but let me make an attempt.  Some people think guys who are cuckolds have some kind of sex disorder or “losers" of some sort. I can confirm they are wrong along don't understand other misconceptions about cuckoldry. Being a cuckold requires you to be confident about yourself most of all. Otherwise you can't see your partner with someone else. You also need to be in a loving relationship and both partners need to be able to completely trust each other. Both partners also need to be clear why they are doing it and also set certain boundaries. If you are careful about it, it can be one of the great joy's of being happily married . As for the psychology behind it. Sometimes its very simple. Just the happiness of seeing your partner having fun is a great altruistic happiness that is difficult for many people to understand. Cuckolding isn't ...

Almost 60% of men and a 25% of women have a cuckold fantasy but many never talk about it.  Believe it or not, this fantasy can improve your sex life and your relationship when done correctly. If you are reading this there’s a high chance you’re at least a little into cuckolding. Maybe you are just exploring or looking for information. You've come to the right place.  Cuckolding is the idea that a married woman, maybe a mom or someone older is still highly sexually attractive to other men. That she’s sexually vivacious and alive. It’s creates a new space for a couple to be sexually open and experience new things in new ways.  It's also a turn on for a husband to see his wife in new sexual ways. Bringing in another person can revive sex drive and desires in a long-term relationship, and can go a long way to add excitement and spice. Society is very heterosexual and very monogamous, having another man in the bedroom and breaking the rules of monogamy is taboo and kinky and c...

More than half of all men and a quarter of all women have the same fantasy, but nobody talks about it. The cuckolding fantasy, or wife sharing fantasy, can be a powerful way to strengthen the enjoyment of your sex life with your partner -- even if you never bring anyone else into the bedroom

Why would anyone ever gain pleasure from seeing their woman fuck other men?  The answer can vary. Often people struggle to understand the deep mental side of cock that goes way beyond intense sex. Cuckoldry takes our deep shames and insecurities and then eroticizes them. Watching a partner with someone else, being present and orchestrating it is a mix of powerful emotions. Top performing individuals often enjoy power exchange. They go to work all day every day... and are "the man," "the alpha," "the leader." Cuck can be an escape from that.  Some  Cucks want their own inner ideal man to make love to their women. The man that they don't consider themselves to be, but the bull does embody. There can a homoerotic element to this sort of fantasy as well,  Sometimes people just find things hot and that's ok.  The idea that humans are automatically supposed to fit in some "correct" sexual preferences is wrong. If he's not a jealous type, th...

  I often struggle with the answer when I'm asked if I'm bi. I have no attraction to men at all. I don't kiss men, but over time I've become comfortable with not only close contact in sexual situations, but also bi sex.  For some couples bi sex is a huge turn on and as a bull, I'm all about turning a couple on, braking out of past limitations and making fantasy happen. I recall an audible gasp from a woman first seeing her man take my cock into his mouth. She later shared she almost climaxed just watching it. Another time a woman shared her fantasy was to witness man to man sex. She said it was the most erotic experience of her life.  So while I have no general interest in men, I've learned what  we are attracted to romantically may not always sync up with what our minds tell us turns us on. When a man is hesitant when it comes to cuck, I'll tell him to focus on how his body reacts and not how his mind has been programmed. Same concept really. It doesn't...

  Cuckolding, watching your partner have sex with someone else, is a popular kink in the US, but not Europe. A sexual-fantasy researcher said the 400 people they interviewed in Belgium and the Netherlands didn't bring up cuckolding at all. That's likely because gender roles are more egalitarian and non-monogamy is more accepted in Europe, making cuckolding less taboo. Americans are often considered sexual prudes compared to their typically more uninhibited European counterparts. But there's one kink that Americans seem to enjoy much more than those overseas: cuckolding where one partner watches while their partner has sex with another person. On a recent podcast hosted by the Kinsey Institute sex researcher Justin Lehmiller, Mariëlle de Goede shared findings from her sexual-fantasy research in the Netherlands and Belgium. It involved conducting 400 interviews about people's sexual fantasies. When de Goede cross-referenced her European findings with previous rese...

I've often been told that the involvement of an additional sex partner (such as a bull) can and does improve the sex life of a couple. My belief is guys tend to try harder and even learn a few techniques from watching and being challenged a bit. A study showed b oth men and women rated sex as more satisfying when men knew they had a sexual rival. This is likely due, in large part, to the fact that men said they put more effort into satisfying their partner when they had a rival. Women also reported that sex usually lasts longer in these situations. Men and women both reported that orgasms were easier to have, more intense, and longer lasting when men knew they had sexual rivals.  This is the deep psychological part of cuckold that many don't fully understand.  So what accounts for these changes in sexual behavior?  Researchers attempted to explain them through an evolutionary lens focusing on  sperm competition theory . The basic idea behind this is that men evolved ...

Q: My wife is interested in finding a bull with a large endowment. I'm worried that may have a negative impact in our sex life together. What do you think? A: You may be asking more about your ego than anything, but putting that issue aside, most woman who think they want large really want different. The average vagina is only 2.5 inches long. Often an excessively large penis is uncomfortable for most women so I always encourage performance over size. You have probably seen some porn movie where a woman take a massive cock.  When having sex, the vaginal canal can get longer to accommodate penetration. Sexual arousal forces the cervix and uterus to lift up and out of the way, which causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen. So while it's possible to take a large one, it's not always easy or practical.  The average penis size is 5 inches. Many men of this size are under the impression they are small. That is not true. To address your original question, if you ar...

Quite often I'm contacted by new couples looking for tips on cuckolding. While there is wealth of information throughout this blog, it never hurts to revisit some key points. First, we all have different desires and fantasies as well as limits and boundaries. It's not the responsibility of your partner to make your every fantasy come true. Do not push your partner beyond what they are comfortable doing. Open and honest conversation away from the heat of the moment is critical. Talk, listen and clearly understand what is agreed to and what is not. Talk about experiences after. What was good, what was not. What do you want to change next time? Set clear boundaries and rules before anything happens. One concern many guys have is fearing their wife may develop feeling for the bull. Any respectable bull will not allow that to happen. A true bull enters a couple's relationship to fulfill their fantasies and allow sexual exploration. To go beyond that endangers the relationship an...

When it comes to cuckold, Americans seem to be much more interested than others.  The reasons behind this may be surprising. Sharing your partner in Europe isn't really considered all that taboo, but w hatever is considered taboo in a person's particular culture is more likely to turn them on. When it comes to cuckolding, it flies in the face of the male-centered and monogamous American cultural norms. So, a man sexually sharing his wife with another man through cuckolding often comes with a negative connotation in the US. For some, that forbidden feeling can be a major turn-on, and actually increase popularity. Even the term "cuck" has  historically been used  to mock men whose wives are unfaithful. And yet the term is slowly being reimagined as a descriptor of just another form of sexual expression. Meanwhile, “cuckold” has become a top search term for many porn sites. It seems as though, whether in fantasy or reality, many men like the idea of another man with thei...

I'm very selective with who I choose to get involved with. Looks has little to do with that. It has to be a good overall match for everyone. There is a common misconception that a Bull will jump into bed with any mans wife. For me, that's not true. Over the years I have walked away from many more couples than I ever got involved with. The reasons vary. Sometimes just not a good vibe, or I did not think the couple was ready. A few times people were just too damn crazy to be connected with. I've gotten some requests that I've turned down. Some of them have been odd to me. I'm not one to judge, but if it's not my thing I have to pass. So what are some the requests I turned down? The top one is pregnancy risk. I feel for couples having a hard time trying to conceive, but I won't be a part of bringing a child into the world through cuck. Children have no place in private sex lives and it's always a no from me. Relations -  There are some fantasies around this...

Cuckold is more common than most people think, but it's not openly discussed outside of trusted circles. Today is easier than ever to connect with like minded people online and ask questions without risking being judged.  While accurate numbers are hard to come by, this the best estimate so far: There are around 6 million US couples that are active cuckolds There are most cuckold couples in the US states: “Rhode Island, New Hampshire, and West Virginia” 35% of men are either “interested” or “very interested” in trying cuckoldry 6 out of 10 men have fantasized about it whereas only 3 out of 10 women have Searches on “Cuckold” on porn websites have increased by 57% in the last 3 years There are around 60-70 million married couples in the US, and a smaller part of those have either practiced it earlier or want to. Some have tried it with other partners and tried to convince their current partner to try it, and others decide as a couple to try it out. 80% of the married couples that ar...

I get a lot of questions about being a bull and all that means. It's not something you learn overnight, but maybe some insight will help. A cuckold bull is a term used to describe a dominant male participant in a cuckolding fetish in which a man takes pleasure in watching his partner engage in sexual activity with another man, often referred to as the "bull". The cuckold bull may be involved in sexual acts or simply watch as a spectator. It often involves power dynamics and intense phycological stimulation beyond mere physical. All participants should engage in safe, consensual and negotiated play. True  Cuckold bulls are unique and much more then someone willing to sleep with an attached woman. Typical features of a cuckold bull: Confidence : A cuckold bull exudes confidence in himself and his masculinity. He's comfortable with sexuality and is not afraid to explore desires of a couple. Open-mindedness : Typically willing to try new things. They enjoy pushing the bou...

I'm often asked by new couples my thoughts on a husband being present and watching the sexual encounter between his wife and a bull. Ultimately it's up to the couple and what they think they can handle, but let me share some thoughts to help make the decision. I personally prefer the husband to be there so long as there is enjoyment in the experience. I also feel it's good for the couple to be connected during sex even if it's only eye contact. However, there is much to consider. First not all women want to be watched. There are a number of reasons for this but unless everyone is comfortable, the experience will be harmed.  Not all guys (especially newbies) can handle the reality of it all. They are in full control of the fantasy in their mind. That's not so when they see a bull take control. Watching is erotic, intense, and can be a fantasy come true. It also can be humbling, a blow to the ego, and may stir up negative feelings of hurt, confusion and inadequacy.  N...