From The Mailbag: Could Cuckold Be Good for Us?

Q: We have been discussing the idea of cuck for sometime now and have reached the point where it either needs to happen or we need to forget it for good. The fear is it could harm our relationship. Can you explain why it might be good for us?

A: I will give you some reasons but it's up to you to decide of the risk is worth the reward.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut when you’re in a long-term relationship. Adding a bull can create a whole new experience and allow you to try new things.  Often couples learn new ways to please each other.

Because cuckolding pushes the boundaries of a traditional sexual relationship, it encourages both partners to be a lot less closed off to trying new things in bed. Being open-minded can help you break out of judgement cycles.

Having a partner who lets you unabashedly be yourself can be nourishing. Someone who’s fulfilled sexually will often have confidence that shows up in all types of relationships. Some guys like the fact that their wife is desired by other men, and some women can find the fact that they’re desirable to other men extremely validating.

For those who embrace the practice of cuckolding fully, claiming your own sexuality and being comfortable enough in your own skin to actually explore new sexual boundaries can help not only strengthen your sex life, but foster your personal growth, too. 

Quality communication is required to have a successful relationship in general, but it’s particularly important for couples who engage in cuckolding. With proper communication, cuckolding couples can build a solid foundation for the trajectory of their relationship. And having these sometimes uncomfortable conversations about one another’s true desires often means less infidelity, because each person in the relationship feels heard and satisfied with their partner.

There’s several ways that cuckolding can happen. The man can watch his wife having sex with another man in person, he can watch her encounters via Skype or FaceTime, or he can arrange the ‘date’ for his partner and sit at home visualizing what she’s doing, anxious to hear the details upon her return. Sometimes he’ll even help her get ready, pick out her outfit, and prep her. It’s different for every couple, and is all about doing what arrangement works best for you.