Cuckold Confusion

Couples just getting into cuckold are bound to find a confusing mix of emotions. A battle between erotic arousal and how we are programmed to react to infidelity is common.

Women often feel their partners should get jealous, and want to keep them away from other men and to themselves. This gets translated into feeling unloved or unwanted of not properly guided. It's important to put rules and boundaries in place that make each person feel heard, safe and supported within the framework of the relationship.

Cuckold does not have to be real for all couples. It can be pursuing the cuckold fantasy in real life or just occasional role-play. There must be compromise when one is not willing to go as far as the other. The needs of both must be met while respecting the limits of both. Communication and mutual enjoyment are the bedrocks to any relationship. 

One of the most common problems novice cuckolding couples make is doing too much too soon. Cuckoldry is about seduction, building trust, and keeping the lines of communication open on both sides of the relationship. While some blurring of the lines between fantasy and reality is normal, too much can cause even the best of intentions to backfire. Though exciting, cuckoldry can be terrifying for men who desire it. Usually, they have built the fantasy years before developing a relationship. In fantasy they control every details. Reality is they give up control. This seemingly counterproductive reaction to reality-based cuckoldry is part of a normal transition for a man. Embracing his submissive and cuckold nature is not always something easily accomplished and takes time to adjust to.

A feeling of jealousy is common, but how it's dealt with is critical. Anger or hurt is never good and should be reason enough to pause. While most people think the Bull has control, that's only true during sex. The rest of the time it the wife in control.

A wife's reaction to emotional responses from her husband often determine if they will be a successful cuckold couple. The responses directly impact their relationship. She must remember that she is a loving wife first and a Cuckoldress second. Her reaction must be loving and reassuring, understanding and supportive, self-controlled and patient.

In fantasy, no one has the potential to get hurt in the process. Reality promises no such thing so you must be sure you are both ready, find and experienced bull and opening communicate together.  Realistically, people can and do get hurt when couples fail to take the proper step to start and maintain a fulfilling cuckold relationship.