Cuck is in Bloom

I love when spring comes, the weather warms up and people are in the mood to fuck.

For a man whose idea of heaven is the gentlest of touches on his aching erection as he leaks precum watching his wife climax with another man, it means cuck is back in season.

When I’ve discussed cuckolding with people not in the lifestyle, some think it represents weakness. That those who get turned on by the idea of their partner fucking someone else are somehow constantly miserable. Feeling undeserving of love and so only able to enjoy it if they know it comes with the promise of betrayal. That's totally wrong.

Guys cite a range of reasons why it’s hot: they get off on their partner’s pleasure. They get off on the pure visual of it: watching two people fuck and knowing one of them is your partner. It's a personalized explicit live show performed just for them. And some of them – yes – they like the conflict. In a world that teaches us that sex is precious – a gift you give to those you love and keep hidden from everyone else – then of course there’ll be excitement in the taboo nature of it.

Alongside the ‘weakness’ thing, cuckolding is often seen as something only submissive men enjoy. Akin to a punishment (or sometimes a back-handed treat) that they’ll accept gratefully, on their knees and glistening with humiliated need. But that's not the case for most of the couples I've seen.  The idea of being ‘shared’ is a turn on for many. 

Although there is a word for the gender-swapped position – cuckqueaning – I very rarely hear this fetish talked about from a female perspective, or the perspective of anyone in a relationship other than a straight one. Perhaps because so often the cuckolding is linked to humiliation, and while in the past it was considered intensely humiliating for a wife to cheat on her husband, our lopsided, assumptions-based sexual narrative tells us that it’s ‘to be expected’ that most men will cheat on their wives.

Whatever the reason for the imbalance, many men get off on this kind of play. For me, there’s an intense pleasure  that radiates from someone who wants their spouse, but who has to wait. Not to mention that the exhibitionism of being watched having sex, and the ability to share a disgustingly filthy fantasy without breaking hearts is a level of erotica that is unmatched.