The Art of Bi Threesomes

 

I often struggle with the answer when I'm asked if I'm bi. I have no attraction to men at all. I don't kiss men, but over time I've become comfortable with not only close contact in sexual situations, but also bi sex. 

For some couples bi sex is a huge turn on and as a bull, I'm all about turning a couple on, braking out of past limitations and making fantasy happen. I recall an audible gasp from a woman first seeing her man take my cock into his mouth. She later shared she almost climaxed just watching it. Another time a woman shared her fantasy was to witness man to man sex. She said it was the most erotic experience of her life. 

So while I have no general interest in men, I've learned what we are attracted to romantically may not always sync up with what our minds tell us turns us on. When a man is hesitant when it comes to cuck, I'll tell him to focus on how his body reacts and not how his mind has been programmed. Same concept really. It doesn't make one gay or even bi for a straight guy to get his dick sucked by another guy — and it doesn’t mean he needs to be gay to enjoy it.

Unsurprisingly, the idea that if a man touches another man he is automatically gay has been ingrained in the very fabric of our society. For many, threesomes seem like a natural extension of exploration. They’re comfortable trying out the same sex, as long as the opposite is also present. 

It's important for us to stop seeing ourselves in such strict roles. Our sex lives are our own, and that means we establish rules and what we enjoy for ourselves. Sex is exciting when you choose to mix it up and allowing outdated ideas of sex to limit experiences holds us back. 

Recent studies suggest that threesomes are particularly enjoyable for men and for couples in committed relationships. Though MFF was the most popularly practiced (51.7%), a few more expressed a keen desire to try an MMF threesome (54.2%).

When it came to same-sex threesomes, over 15% of respondents desired MMM, but FFF was the least popularly desired, with only 8.5% responding that this was on their list. 

Having a threesomes can make us feel admired by more than one person. Perhaps you’ve been with your partner for a long time and the spark isn’t as strong as it used to be. As the third top sexual fantasy for women, adding a third member to the sexual dynamic can be a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. If your current partner is watching, or joining in, this can make you see each other in a whole new light and reignite a passion.

Threesomes can be a fun gateway into exploring different aspects of our sexuality eased in with the familiar and with less stigmas attached. If you do have bisexual curiosity, you can experience the best of both worlds, simultaneously.

So should you dive in a do a threesome? What are your reasons behind the desire? Are you doing it for you, or your partner? Is it to explore your sexuality, or for the bucket list? How secure are you in yourself and your relationships? Those need to be answered first.