Cuckold Problems
All couples, but especially those new to cuck, worry about problems that can occur. Let's talk about some problems you may face along the way and give you a simple solutions exploring cuckoldry.
Problem: Too Much, Too Soon
Cuck is about seduction, building trust, and honest communication on both sides of the relationship. While some blurring of the lines between fantasy and reality is normal, too much can cause even the best of intentions to backfire.
Though exciting, cuck can be overwhelming if rushed. Usually, a couple has built the fantasy years before developing a relationship. However, the fantasies and desires of each partner may be very different. Commonalties must be discovered and explored while respecting the limits of your partner. For new cucks, embracing a submissive and cuckold nature is not something easily accomplished. If you notice an increase of arguments, petty or otherwise, tension rising, and a battle of the wills ensuing, it's time to pause and address the issues.
Problem: Compromising to Excess
Sometimes, when a couple tries too much too soon, one may giving in to something they aren't truly ready for. Feeling pressured, cornered, or even bullied may occur. Be open and honest about what do and don't like and what you will or won't accept. It is not the duty of a spouse to submit to every sexual desire of a partner. A clear mind always develops a healthier plan than one spurred by anger, jealousy, insecurity, or frustration.
Problem: An Emotional Setback
Once the cuckold learns to embrace his role in the relationship, there may be a decrease in trust. This is usually brought on by jealousy or insecurity on the cuckold’s part, but how the Cuckoldress reacts is what makes all the difference. Some jealousy is fine. True anger or hurt is not. Understand one can be at a vulnerable stage as a new cuckold. Reassurance that the bond is strong and the cuck is valued goes a long way.
As each person feels more vulnerable, they perceive an increased risk of being hurt. This is a cyclical process and one which subsides as time passes. However, how address the feelings in the beginning will make all the difference
Problem: Confusing Fantasy with Reality
In a fantasy, no one has the potential to get hurt. Everything is perfect and in total control. Reality promises no such thing. You are dealing with 3 people who all have different ideas, limits, desires and feelings. It's not going to be the unrealistic version of cuck portrayed in porn. There won't be perfect bodies and enormous endowments. I as bull, need a break at times or a drink of water. Muscle cramps happen or things that would be left out when editing a sex scene. It will be very erotic and intense, but in a very real and often imperfect way. Embrace that and enjoy the realness of it all.
Problem: Expectations Differ
I worked with a couple and the husband had fantasized about cuck for years, while the wife had secretly explored extramarital affairs. In the husband’s fantasy, he got to watch “live porn” as his wife was with another man. However, the wife kept her activities private, and did not enjoy being watched. She was distracted and felt diminished pleasure with her husband present. I stress, cheating is often not a good way to get into cuck, This couple, who never argued before, were suddenly at odds because his expectations were drastically different from hers. Any problems already existing in a relationship are magnified by exploring sexuality in any form.
This is where you need to have a conversation outside of the bedroom and when everyone is calm. You must be willing to accept not every desire or fantasy you have will happen. Respect your spouse and their limits. Don't attempt to manipulate or coerce your spouse. Boundaries may expand in time, desires may change. Attempting to force or speed up that process is not a good idea. I know couples that do things now they wouldn't have in the beginning, but often that change comes over years.
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