Q: This isn't exactly cuckold related, but I am hoping you can help. We are about to go into our first group sex encounter and wanted to know if you had any advice for us? A: Without knowing your level of experience with other forms of sex my advice will be pretty general, but here it is: Decide ahead of time what your expectations and boundaries are. Not only what you are willing to do, but what your spouse is ready to witness. Be open to the desires of others, but also firm on your own limits.  It's incredibly important to be safe. Protecting yourself and your partner are vital. Don't get carried away and let one experience effect the rest of your life.  Communication is key. Make sure you give and get consent. Give yourself time to adjust. No need to do it all right away. I don't recommend excessive drinking or any drug use. It will cloud your abilities and judgement. Be open, but don't be afraid to say no. Don't be offended to hear no.  Don't hide the f...

While most of the views here are presented from my (The bull) perspective, I asked a cuckold husband to share his thoughts in the hopes some might find it helpful. His words are below: I never dreamed I would be in such a position with my wife and while I would love to discuss it at times, there are few people you can open up to about such things. Many people have a very wrong idea of what cuck even is. I live happily as a cuckold. We have been married for 17 years and intend to stay married. I have not had good sex with my wife for virtually our entire marriage. I am not good in bed, and suffer from premature ejaculation. Sex always terrified me; and sexual expectations are unbearable. Past sexual moments always ended in disappointment for both of us. We share physical touch, but sex for us now is very different.   To some all that might sound awful. To me it works perfectly. We love each other and are both satisfied. When we first met our bull it was strictly conversation. L...

 Q: I've been reading your blog and as a married woman both fascinated and terrified by what I have read, I'm curious about the impact of romantic feelings developing for a bull and the impact of having an additional sex partner. Will you address this? A: Thanks for the question. S ome people are better than others at compartmentalizing their romantic longings from their sexual desires. For others, emotions and touch naturally entwine, making causal sex harder. Research shows that women tend to have a harder time than men with preventing emotional attachment, and when this happens they are more prone to feeling used, depressed, regretful, or embarrassed after the fact . It's important to determine what type of person you are before entering into an additional sexual relationship.   It can be easy to tell yourself that it's just sex, just for fun, but for some people, it may turn out to be very hard to keep your feelings in check. So, it's vital to assess expectation...

No matter what role you play (watching, joining, awaiting her return from a date) in order to be a good cuck and maintain a solid sexual connection with your partner it is essential you know how to properly eat pussy. Clean or filled, smooth or hairy, there is no more intimate connection than lips to vagina. Even guys with size or erectile issues can do this. If you have a mouth, you can make a woman cum. The issue is many guys have no clue what they are doing when their face is between her legs. I'm going to try to fix that. First understand the parts of the woman. Google it if you have to. Study it. Be able to find all her parts blind, because you will be.  Technique is just as important as attitude. You should savor a woman. The smell of her body, the taste of her on your tongue, the sounds she makes as her body reacts to each movement. Guys should get lost in the moment and really connect with her and share in the pleasure you are giving her. To have command of a woman's bo...

Q: We have been discussing the idea of cuck for sometime now and have reached the point where it either needs to happen or we need to forget it for good. The fear is it could harm our relationship. Can you explain why it might be good for us? A: I will give you some reasons but it's up to you to decide of the risk is worth the reward. I t’s easy to  get stuck in a rut when you’re in a long-term relationship . Adding a bull can create a whole new experience and allow you to try new things.   Often couples learn new ways to please each other. Because cuckolding pushes the boundaries of a traditional sexual relationship, it encourages both partners to be a lot less closed off to trying new things in bed. Being open-minded can help you break out of judgement cycles. Having a partner who lets you unabashedly be yourself can be nourishing. Someone who’s fulfilled sexually will often have confidence that shows up in all types of relationships. Some guys like the fact that t...

When I first began to learn about cuckold after a few adventures there was little information. Besides some raunchy porn or stories that usually involved an interracial belittling scene, actual helpful insight was scarce. I was fortunate to be asked to join a few MFM threesomes, but the concept of being a Bull and all that went with it was unknown to me. My initial reaction was this  reflected an unhealthy relationship. In time I found the exact opposite. Most people that fully enjoy cuck have a strong healthy and very honest relationship. They are willing to explore what has been labeled shameful and taboo by others who have no experience or logical way to judge such a lifestyle. While ones sex life is and should be kept private, many couples who think they may be alone in their cuckold desires really are not.  In recent years, mainstream acknowledgment and attention to cuckold and the hotwife fantasy lifestyle has exploded, shifting in extraordinary ways.  In 2018,...

What is the definition of a "Bull"? I get this question all the time and depending on who you ask, the answer will change. The truth is there is not one simple definition of a cuckold Bull. In the general sense it's simply one who has sex with a married woman. Within that broad definition, they are many types of "bulls". I'm not going to judge any of these types or get into the pro and cons of each but rather just mention of few of the types. Some bulls are one and done . A hot one night stand with or without the husband there and they moved on. They are often the guys looking to get laid, have no connection with the couple and often have had a high number of sexual partners.  There are cyber bulls . They chat and exchange erotic messages and content without actual sexual contact. It's a safer way to explore the fantasy of cuck without the risk. There are holiday bulls . These guys live in different city than the couples and often connect with couples on...