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From the Mailbag: What's it like to be a Bull?

Q: What's it like to be a bull for cuckold couples? A:  Being bull has the lot of responsibilities and is about much more than sex.  A bull has to understand what a couple is looking for be able to deliver it or have the sense not get involved.   The myth is couples find bulls just because husband is not able to satisfy his wife . This is not always the case. Human nature is always looking for new things, that is why this curiosity of allowing a 3rd person in their sexual activity is appealing to many. They may have a great sex life, but want to take their sex life to next level.  A Cuck husband that allows his wife to enjoy a bull is not weak or somehow less of a man, rather he is strong and open to pleasing his wife in new ways. So bull has to respect the husband and wife. Being a bull doesn’t mean you are allowed to have sex with a mans wife whenever you want, they are still a couple and you are merely part of their private sex life.  Understanding that the couple has their own

From the Mailbag: Why would anyone enjoy this?

Q: I've been reading your posts and I go between fascination and disgust. I know people have all sorts of strange things they are into, but I don't understand why any self respecting person would want to share their spouse. I would not want my husband with another woman, nor would I ever want him see me even so much as flirt with a man. Can you explain why anyone would enjoy this? A: Thanks for the question. Many people don't understand the attraction of cuckolding and that's fine. We just have to be careful not to judge those who do enjoy it.  But let me answer your question on why some enjoy cuck. The answer can be found in a number of my posts, but f or many people, cuck provides a space to explore their sexual desires in a new way and often in ways one could not experience in a typical M/F relationship. This opportunity to experience sexual pleasure together in a new way appeals to many couples.  It provides a way to satisfy your spouse without having the entire res

Views from a Bull: What Cuck is/isn't

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I don't openly share what I do outside of certain circles. I write here in the hopes that what is shared will be of help and interest to others who also are limited in such discussions. I didn't ever set out to be a bull, much less write about my sexual experiences with couples.  Unfortunately there are very few objective sources of information on the topic and I've had so many questions within those circles I thought the answers needed to be shared. To most cuckold is  a forbidden act that is rarely publicly discussed. That changes here. Liberating Cuck Cuckolding is a intense experience that should be tailored to the needs of each couple. There should be lots of talk about everything beforehand.  Still when it happens the first time there may be panic and genuine fear. Expect confusing emotions and being unsure of what you should be feeling. One may feel jealous and aroused at the same time. Once you get past those initial feelings if uncertainty, a well prepared couple w

The Disappointing Bull

I have had countless conversations with couples over the years regarding cuck and by far the biggest challenge once a couple decides to try cuck is finding a good bull. I could share lots of stories of  disappointments. While it's impossible to avoid all issues, if you take your time with the process those disappointments will happen during screening and not in the bedroom. So what are the things that disappoint most couples? The one I hear most is not being able to preform . A number of men who say they are bulls can't perform while being watched. So a husband wanting to view the sex act between the bull and his wife becomes an issue. If a guy is not comfortable taking a married woman in front of her husband, he has no business calling himself a bull. Next is the all big talkers. They tell you what you want to hear and then don't show up. If they waste your time and only provide excuses move on.  Some guys are too rough . While a bull should take control and many find eve

Separating Emotional Sex and Physical Sex

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Sex with your spouse is, and should, be very different than sex with your bull. There is a an emotional connection that exists with couples. You have built a life together and all of that (the good and bad) gets in bed with you. Many people base sex on the emotional,  you need to love the person.  The message teaches a good lesson about caring, respect, and treating others as equals. It provides the right direction for relationships. However, that approach changes with the addition of a bull. A bull is an addition to your larger relationship with your spouse and not a substitute for it. Let's talk about the differences between sex with a spouse and a bull. One key rule I have is emotional feelings are not allow between me and a mans wife. Having feelings for someone is vital when establishing a long-term relationship for having a family and companionship.  This should be avoided with your bull and reserved only for your spouse. That does not mean you can't like your bull or car

Sizing Things Up: The Truth of Penis Size

I have to laugh when I hear people seeking a guy with 8 or 10 inches. While there are some guys that can deliver that, it's not realistic in most cases. Studies show t he average length of an erect penis is between 5.1 and 5.5 inches while t he average depth of a vagina is between 3 and 4 inches. You do the math.  Another word for average is "normal". So if you are in that range you are perfectly normal.  B oth the length and girth can fluctuate depending on your surroundings and how stimulated you are. In fact, there are a whole host of factors that can alter your penis size. Temperature, arousal level, testosterone levels, all play a factor. I always suggest performance is more important than size. Many guys considering cuck think their penis is too small and does not satisfy the wife. This may be true is certain cases, but more often it's not the size that is truly lacking. It's technique, stamina, ED or simple knowledge on how to sexually satisfy a woman. Thes

From the mailbag: He wants to watch me with a another man

  "He wants to watch me with another man…should I do it? He watches me as we have sex now but he wants to see my face and how my body responds from another point of view. He is letting me decide if I want to choose the other guy or let him do the choosing." When you introduce kinks into the bedroom, things can get real tricky, real fast. One of our readers ran into this issue when her  husband mentioned that h is cuckold fantasy. While for some the idea their partner is interested in cuck can be shocking, one should never shame someone for having fantasies that are different from your own. That being said, you also shouldn't force yourself to accommodate them if it seriously makes you uncomfortable. So if your man has a cuckold fantasy (where he wants you to have sex with another man while he watches) Really think about what he's asking. Do you think that this will negatively impact your relationship? Before you make any decision, it's important that you voice any