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Forced Orgasms

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Sex often is one and done. Get you partner to cum and you have crossed the finish line. As a bull, that is never the case. My goal is to take things way past the everyday one and done and often one of the highlights for a couple with me is multiple orgasms in a session. I do want to be careful with the word "forced". Nothing should ever be against one's will, however women who have not experienced intense multiple orgasms one of another may think they need to stop when that experience requires a bull to keep going. So understand what is meant by that word.  The catch is that while these orgasms are dubbed "forced orgasms," nobody is actually  forcing  anyone else to orgasm.  When someone is actually forced to perform a sex act against their will, that is sexual assault. That’s  not  what we’re talking about here Forced orgasm usually entails (consensually) making a person orgasm over and over and over and over without a come-down period between each orgasm.  The

Say Hello To A Whole New World Of Sex

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Though it’s gained more popularity in recent years, cuckolding is an age-old practice.  And before you jump to branding this lifestyle as “crazy” or “weird”, I encourage you to take a step back and consider the level of trust and communication required to make this type of relationship work. It’s an intense bond that spills over into other aspects of the relationship when done correctly.  It’s easy to  get stuck in a rut in a long-term relationship . The benefits of cuckolding can introduce both of you to new and exciting experiences . Instead of viewing badly acted porn, the man can watch the woman he loves receive pleasure in real time. In turn, she can also try new things that she can later experience with her partner. Often both learn different ways to turn each other on. Because cuckolding pushes the boundaries of a traditional sexual relationship, it encourages both partners to be a lot less closed off to trying new things in bed. Being open-minded and honest about feelings and d

How Dare You: The Dangers of Cuck

While the majority of people find the information here helpful and of value, that's not true for all. I recieved a message from someone who had a bit of  criticism. They held a very traditional view of marriage and was appalled anyone might suggest altering such and the damage it can do . Of course that is a valid position.  I do want to be clear that I am very much pro-marriage. Men and women should form a lasting bond and raise children in a loving home and I would in no way ever seek to disrupt that. However we have to face the reality that, in the modern world, not all couples fit in that mold. Their efforts to address needs desires and issues within their relationship should not be judged by those who may not approve of their private choices.   A married couple faces many challenges not least of which is that one partner is a man and the other woman. Two different viewpoints on sex and relationships. Two different desires and limits. They must share a common purpose. When they

From the Mailbag: Is this right for us?

 Q: We have been reading through your posts and while we have discussed this for some time, I can't get myself to take the leap into doing it for real. How do you know when you are ready? A: First I'm glad you said "we". That shows both of you are on this path together. This is not for everyone and many couples never go beyond the fantasy stage. It can be very erotic just exploring the idea and maybe incorporate toys without having to bring a third person in. To answer your specific question of how do you know when you are ready there are some basic ideas to consider when it comes to inviting another male to have a sexual role in a relationship. You  must have a functional, loving relationship; cuckolding doesn’t fix broken relationships. You  must be able to communicate openly and fully trust each other.  You  must each have confidence in their relationship and feel the addition of bull will enhance your bond and sex life together.  You must understand the desires an

From the Mailbag: How is Cuck not Cheating?

Q: I'm just exploring this for the first time. You say cuck is not cheating. How is it not cheating? A: Thanks for the question. I can certainly see how from the outside it may appear to be cheating, however cheating is a selfish act that betrays trust and in most cases vows. It can be highly destructive. I don't condone cheating ever. If you are in a committed relationship you should value that.  Cuckolding is in fact an act of honesty and trust. Both should be involved aware and should approve. There should be no secrecy between the couple. Nothing hidden. When one cheats often times the partner can sense the betrayal. There can be feelings of guilt, mistrust fear, loss. Cuck is the opposite. You have open communication. You go out of your way to please your spouse.  You share things on a much deeper level.  When this is done within a loving, trusting marriage, both can focus on the erotic elements of such an adventure and begin to experience things with a bull a couple can&#

Being the Bull

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There is always some confusion on what a Bull is and is not and you may get different answers from different people.  It’s not an effort to treat a male as sub-human or as an animal. It has no racial connotation. Its origin is in ranching and farming where a bull has a single purpose – being introduced to the herd of females for one purpose – sex. So, when transposed over human complexities, it implies a male whose single role with a (married) woman is sex. That's it. When a male first experiences a married woman, either by an affair or through the early stages of cuckolding, he is only a bull by the narrow definition. There hasn’t been opportunity or invitation to be more than that, but as experience mounts, either with a single couple or successive couples, a bull with the intellectual capacity and emotional maturity required can start to become aware of the complexities involved in being the other man for a couple and protect the relationship between them. It is only then he bec

From the Mailbag: Should others know?

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Q: We are pretty new to cuck but enjoying it. We have found a good bull using your advice and are wondering how private we should keep all this? Not that we want everyone to know, but how do we handle things in public like dating? Others won't know details about what you’re doing as a couple even if they happen to catch a very small glimpse of it. Even being seen with a male in a public setting, the most that can be assumed is she’s being flirty. Even if she’s seen kissing her date that doesn’t prove anything beyond a kiss. The odds of someone you know being somewhere you socialize are incredibly small unless you’re foolish enough to socialize where you know family/friends hang out.  When it comes to your sex life I say that's private and none of anyone's business unless you want it to be. Some will confide in a close friend their sexual adventures, but in general it should not be shared. When it comes to public situations same thing. Figure out what you want to say if you