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Finding Your Bull

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If you have both decided you are ready for the real deal and it's time to take the leap, one of the biggest challenges is find a good bull. There is no shortage of guys willing to have sex with a married woman, but an experienced bull who understands the psychological side of cuck and how to guide a couple is not easy to find. Beware many will say they know what they are doing, but very few actually do. I always suggest a couple make a list of what they seeking in a bull. What are needs and what are wants. Be realistic. If you want a model perfect body with a 10 inch cock you may be setting the bar too high. It's just as important to know what you won't settle on. For instance, I don't suggest a couple ever consider a married bull or someone who has a risky lifestyle.  Keep in mind if you rush into things and settler for someone who is "good enough" an poor experience can have a negative impact and my prevent one or both of you from want to continue.  The good...

From the Mailbag: Advice for Bulls

  Q: I'm pretty new to all this. I have read the advice you give to couples but wondered if you have any advice for bulls? Thanks for the question. I have plenty of advice, but I stress each couples needs and desires are different so there are no single answers, but I can give some general insight. First is understand even though a bull controls the encounter, his sexual desires are not the priority. Most couples look to a bull to re-spark their sexual desires. That should be your mission. They will have fantasies and things they want to explore that you are bound to enjoy, but you need to be able to make them comfortable enough to express those things to you.  Build trust and never betray that trust.  Do not develop feelings. That does not mean don't care or be cold, but it is the duty of any honorable bull to protect and respect the marriage bond. A couple invites a bull into their sex life. He is not there to replace or take on the role of the husband. You are part of ...

Chatrooms and websites

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One of the biggest challenges when it comes to cuck is finding people who are honest, real and do more than just talk a good game. Many couples turn to chatrooms and websites to safely and discreetly meet people and begin their exploration. While there are some real people to be found, many are just playing out their own sexual fantasies online.  You really have no idea who you are talking to and if what they are telling you is even close to the truth. I have no issue with people who play out fantasy online. I do have an issue with those who misrepresent themselves and seek to mislead others. The best approach is to assume what you find online is false until proven true. I don't expect anyone to just believe every word I say. I answer questions, address concerns, build trust over time and never rush into anything.  If you go online, I suggest you do it as a couple. At the very least discuss what you discover together. It goes without saying, don't give anyone your address, pho...

Breeding.....

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I hate the term breeding. It sounds so industrial. I was asked (and have been asked in the past) about the subject. This is my view on the topic. Take it or leave it. There are times when a couple may desire to have the bull impregnate the wife for a number of reasons. My response to that request is and will always be NO. I've heard it all before. It's a trusted three way relationship. They want a family anyway. The woman can't conceive with the husband. Whatever you come up with my answer is going to be no.  If you want to seek a sperm donor fine but, I don't suggest it be your bull. There are several reasons why I am strongly against this. First, I don't believe in involving children in your sexual fantasies on any level. That particular fantasy is a red flag for me. It often indicates to me a couple does not have clear sense of the dividing line between reality and fantasy. Bringing a child into the world through a sexual triad can create all kinds of legal, mora...

It's Humiliating

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There are some bulls (and couples) who enjoy humiliation. It may be the size of the husbands cock or his inability to satisfy his wife that is made fun of. I personally do not engage in that. Most couples are not seeking that type of situation and I find the risk of genuinely hurting a relationship too great for me. Plus it's really not in my nature to gain pleasure at someone's expense. Now that's not to say that submission and humbling acts are harmful. There is an unavoidable hierarchy that must take place in cuck. The bull has to be in a controlling position to guide the couple. The wife must submit to allow the bull to take her in front of her husband and the husband must submit and willingly give his wife over to the bull. None of this is done to hurt or humiliate. It's done to heighten pleasures and to recast the typical roles of the couple  often dictated by society .  Even if in everyday life the husband is an Alpha male and dominant, all that should...

I'm not supposed to want this

I was talking to a guy who has been married for over 20 years. He has had the idea of cuck in his head but said to me "I'm not supposed to want this". No one really decides something like that. It's all based on how we perceive others reactions. What I hear often is over time couples crave that feeling they used to have. I'm not talking emotional feeling toward a spouse, but that sexual excitement when you first met. How incredible sex was in the beginning and how you could not wait for the next time. Life has a way of dulling that. Jobs, kids, distractions. How does a couple shake that and get back to that original excitement toward each other. Sure you can go through therapy or something, but most only seek a Doctor when something is wrong. Nothing is really wrong. It's just not as right as it could be. The role of a genuine bull is get the couple back on track. To be the catalyst that rekindles those connections that have been dulled over time. That's d...

More or Less?

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Many guys while being turned on by the idea of cuck are concerned that their wife will only have sex with the bull and no longer desire sex with their husband. I will tell you sex will change but often improve greatly.  Once you understand that sex is more than just intercourse then you are bound to experience more exciting and intense sex with your spouse BECAUSE of the bull's involvement.  They key is to channel desires into other forms of intimacy. For couples whose husband for whatever reason does not effectively satisfy his wife, intercourse is really only most pleasing for the husband. The wife my find it enjoyable but less than satisfying. When you add the sexual satisfaction provided by a good bull, sex becomes more satisfying for both and often the desires of the couple increases.  The old saying "Absence may the heart grows fonder" applies here. When a wife is satisfied by her bull and the issues of frustration or disappointment are removed, sex becomes so much ...

From the mailbag: Do I dare go bare?

 Q: I found your blog. We are new to cuckold and I hate condoms. What do you suggest? First, health and safety are always important. I never take pregnancy or health risks. That said I have been with couples who enjoy bare sex and ejaculation inside the wife. I consider it honor and real sign of trust to cum in mans wife and only do it when asked and allowed.  Unless you fully trust your bull and are sure everyone is clean and does not sleep with others insist on testing first. If you are sure it's safe and have limited risks, then going bare can provide a deeper connection. Many couples get intense pleasure from the bull depositing his semen in the wife and they often reconnect by using the bull's cum as lube or to pleasure the wife orally after sex with the bull. Just don't take risks in the heat of passion. Have a question? Submit it and I will try to answer.

How, when, where?

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  I want to stress each couple is different so no one answer applies to everyone. The are some general guidelines but it's up to you and your partner to decide details and limits.  Some cucks like hearing about exploits. Others like to watch from a distance or be in the next room. Still others like to have some level of participation. You have to discover what is most comfortable and what one can handle.  In my personal view I prefer a husband to be as active and a part of it all as he can. Cuck really is a three way relationship no matter what level of participation takes place. All should gain sexual arousal and satisfaction from it. It's for that reason I recommend couples have ongoing sessions with a single regular bull. It takes time to build comfort and trust and be able to really explore beyond previous sexual boundaries. A steady bull who you both come to know and trust is not only less risky when it comes to physical and health safety, but more rewarding for...

It's Not All Black and White

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  Often times cuckold is portrayed as black man with a large cock and a white wife, While there are certainly some couples that enjoy this scenario, it's not really the norm for most.  Race should have little, if anything to do with choosing a bull. While many new couples start off seeking a man with a larger cock than the husband and many think a black man has that (BBC), most discover it is more important to find a bull with an average cock that knows how to please a woman in multiple ways. In fact many couples discover often large cocks are uncomfortable for the woman.  The images that are often seen in cuckold porn do not reflect this reality. It really comes down to your own desires and preferences. Do not get wrapped up in racial stereotypes because often couples discover they are myths.  Interracial cuck is merely a niche within the cuckolding lifestyle. Couples have shared with me stories of disappointment when they assumed a black man would be more domi...

Intro

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I've debated starting this blog, but I find many people have questions and there is more false information out there than accurate and helpful info. So here it is. As for me, I'm an genuine experienced bull. That means I have done the things I speak of and share from my personal views and experience. If you are just beginning to look into cuck, forget what you see in porn and most things online. Most of it comes from people who don't have a clue. It's fine for fantasy, but reality is very different.  The term "bull" is often misunderstood. For me it simply means a man who leads a couple in sexual exploration. It's not a threesome, swinging, cheating or some guy on a power trip that likes to fuck someone's wife. I don't get into humiliation, or excessive dominance. My goal is to enhance the sex life of the couple and allow them to explore things in a way that would not be possible one on one.  The term bull can be used in a general way to refer to a...